Offering compassion to those who have harmed or disappointed you does not mean being a victim. The difference is not needing to exact revenge or prove one's superiority. With mercy in your heart you will find yourself much less distracted and disheartened by the behaviors that you see and read about. You will be able to send the offenders love and not become obsessed with anger, hatred, or the desire for revenge, thus focusing on what you are for, rather than what you are against.

Wayne D Dyer