It's all a cycle

As I think about the ups and downs that come with life I realize that it is all a cycle... in every relationship you have your ups and your downs without  a doubt.  You have those that you will hurt unintentionally, and those that no matter what you do you can never please even if you tried.  At the end of the day you have to be happy with yourself and the decisions you make, and as long as you know that you are not being malicious or intentionally hurting someone that is all you can do.  At times I feel like every move is watched (thanks to social networking), and scrutinized in the wrong way.  Some things are not what they appear, regardless of how they appear.  unless you REALLY know what is going on or take a second to ask one can come up with MANY speculations of what they think may be.  The speculations then only become fuel that add to the fire and some times causing more pain and frustration at times...so who's best interest is had in moments like that?  It is easy to add ones opinion to what they do not know... but I challenge us all (including myself to step back and before adding fuel to someones fire) step back and don't say anything...if you are trying to be a friend at most listen.  Let's not judge one another's actions, let's lift each other up.  Let's ask questions, and give honest answers, and accept the honest answers for what they really are instead of trying to dig deeper.  In the end our friendships should not be measured by how many times things have been misunderstood but rather by all the times that whole heartedly one has been there for another, and how regardless of what they know they can pick up the phone at any time and the other person will be there with out a doubt.  In any relationship it takes effort form both parties in order to keep it lasting and on going.  One can never be selfish enough to not even take a second to say oh btw how was your morning, or your weekend.  Treat others the way you want to be treated.