Thursday, January 20, 2011

Another year with out him

Yes today would have marked our 11 year wedding anniversary.  Last year I had told myself that would be the last year I was going to celebrate without him, so as the day approached being that i had not been making plans it kinda went unseen.  Last night I cried...a cry that I have not cried in a really long time, the trigger was Jess cutting his hair and waking me up at 1:40am, now don't get me wrong normally you wake me and I am not the happiest camper, however to sob about it is not me.  As  was crying I even sad great now I can't stop and I don't even know why.  well I finally cried myself to sleep, woke up in a not so great mood, and as I type I am still in a funk.  I get to work and have to write the date and then it all comes together.  

What amazes me most is that no matter how much I may try to block out dates that should no longer be of importance such as a wedding anniversary of someone who has not been here for over 3 years my inner being will not allow it, and it takes me through a emotional roller coaster.  As most of my readers probably know I have to be in control (mostly of my feelings), and at times when I am not in control of my feelings it throws me for a loop, a loop that I have not prepared myself for mentally, emotionally.  

Needless to say I was not prepared for today, and as I continue to type I have to constantly fight back the tears.  As much as it hurts I am thankful that my inner being will not allow me to forget something as great as the marriage that we shared.  He made me the woman I am today, and if it was not for everything we went through I would definitely not be the wife I am today.  I miss him, more than I have let myself believe and feel for a while now.  

To my dearest Josiah, 
I am beyond thankful for the years I got to spend with you, the many memories that we made, for the precious, yet crazy ass daughter you gave me.  I love you now as I loved you then, you will always be a part of my life no matter how many years pass. 

Love always, 
Your Wifey. 

1 comment:

  1. it's hard to put aside parts of our lives that made us who we are, to not think about them cause they cause too much pain. I don't know the loss you feel, but I know that you are one helluva strong woman, (u prlly dont want to hear that) and i love you deeply...

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